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Author:
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SQ
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Date:
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07/05/2008
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Subject:
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Re: Leaving so soon!
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You mentioned that your wonderful man was a bit taken aback when you suggested that he might consider attending a college near you since he is also thinking about going back to school as well.
It seems like you have some pretty strong feelings for and thoughts about this guy. Have you expressed how you feel about him and if so does he feel the same way?
If he doesn’t then he might be afraid to tell you the truth about his feelings so that may be why he acted the way he did and why he has not mentioned anything more to you about it.
On the other hand, if you have been up front and honest with him about your feelings and discussed why you would like to have him close to you, he may be still be afraid especially if his feelings for you are not as strong as yours.
He may care for you a great deal as well but he may not want to leave his home area. Until the two of you talk to one another you can only guess what is going on in his head and that puts you in a heads or tails situation…up in the air!
I agree with you that having an online relationship isn’t the best option and in fact really isn’t the best choice, there is no personal interaction with only words on a screen and words can create picturesque fantasies. It does not sound like that is what you are interested in sharing with him, a fantasy…
Flights back and forth on a student budget is rather impractical with a lot of lost time and jet lags, doesn’t sound real healthy physically, emotionally or financially to me.
If he shares the same feelings for you, I don’t think that your suggestions are off base, especially if he is serious about going back to school as well.
I’m not sure brining this matter up over a birthday celebration is the wisest decision. There may be some real emotional feelings and thoughts shared and expressed and it would be a shame to curdle a day of the celebration of your birth on this planet!
I think that I would express to him that you would like to discuss these things with him and set up a special “Talk Date,” open the lines of communications and share your feeling, each of you and go from there.
You need to realize though that you may hear some things you don’t necessarily want to hear and it could hurt, on the other hand if you both understand one another and he does feel the same way but not quite as strongly as you and he agrees to stay close while going to school, you have gained the opportunity to continue your friendship and relationship and see how it grows.
Good luck with your pursuit of happiness, school and Happy Birthday!
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