These guides were written by psychotherapists to help you have healthier relationships and get more of what you want. There are currently eight guides. New guides are added regularly. Please feel free to comment on any of these guides.

Relationship Guides

Compassionate Communication - A Language Without Judgement  by Stefan Gonick, Relationship Expert

How often do we express our feelings and needs, wanting to connect, only to end up inspiring defensiveness and greater distance in our partner? This guide teaches a model of communication that avoids inflamatory judgements and interpretations and instead inspires a compassionate response from the other person. This model works even when only one person in a couple knows it. This model is for singles, couples and anyone interested in more compassionate relationships.

Get Others to Really Hear You: How to Talk to an Alien  by Jonathan Robinson, MA, MFT

Getting others to understand us (particularly members of the opposite sex) can be quite challenging. Learn how to powerfully engage people in what you're trying to convey.

Win-Win Conflict Resolution For Singles and Couples  by Stefan Gonick, Relationship Expert

"Conflict resolution is the art of compromise." Right? Wrong! Compromise is the uncreative last resort when all else fails. It is an agreement to share equally in the dissatisfaction and unhappiness. With Win-Win Conflict Resolution you find creative solutions that satisfy both person's needs, desires and concerns. It starts with a change in attitude captured by the following quote: "We changed from feeling like we were sitting on opposite sides of the table to both sitting on the same side with the problem on the table in front of us." This guide is for everyone who wants more in their relationships.

Give People What They Want: The Key to Harmonious Relationships  by Jonathan Robinson, MA, MFT

Everyone has unspoken, sometimes even unconscious, expectations about "how things should be done." These hidden "rules" can be the key to harmony or discord in our relationships. This guide helps you understand how to have better relationships by uncovering these expections in yourself and your partner so that you can give each other what is wanted.

Repair Broken Trust: The Science of Creating Safety  by Jonathan Robinson, MA, MFT

Trust is the foundation of any relationship--without trust, the whole structure of a personal connection simply falls apart. This how-to guide discusses how trust gets broken, and, more importantly, how you can repair the damage and heal your relationship.

Make a Relationship Special: The Joy of Peak Moments  by Jonathan Robinson, MA, MFT

We all crave special, extraordinary experiences in our lives and relationships. Usually this "peak moments" happen randomly or at special occasions. This guide describes four "keys" to helping you create peak moments in your relationships.

The Power of Appreciation: A way to reliably deepen goodwill in your relationship  by Bruce Brown, Ph.D., LMFT

This article speaks about the often unspoken, deep need people have to know or be reminded of the ways that they are liked, honored, respected and loved by their partner - especially in long-term relationships. Suggestions are provided as to how to use appreciations even in the teeth of conflict, to enhance communication.

Dating Guides

Overcoming Shyness: Developing More Ease In Social Situations  by Stefan Gonick, Relationship Expert

If you are shy, you are not alone! This guide discusses ways that you can overcome your feelings of shyness and connect with people more easily at parties, group situations and one-on-one.

Dating Our Parents and Recreating Our Parents  by Stefan Gonick, Relationship Expert

Do you repeat the same type of relationships over and over again? Don't we all. This guide talks about why we do that and what we can do about it. There is good news at the end of the story.

How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection: The Successful Rejection Experience  by Jonathan Robinson, MA, MFT

This guide discusses, in a humorous manner, how people can overcome their fear of rejection. People learn that the best way through a fear is to not avoid it--but rather to face it head on. Readers learn that in as little as one hour, their whole love life can be dramatically effected by knowing how to successfully face and overcome their fears. Once you practice this method, your life will never be the same!

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